We have an advantage over men in many ways. One of those advantages is oestrogen. This helps us to remember events far better than men. You see, we don’t forget easily. This can sometimes be a good thing but there is always a flip side and this can often stop you from moving forward.
According to Dr Marianne J Legato from her book “Why Men never Remember and Women Never Forget”, men and women are born to be different from birth. For a start, our sex is determined when we are conceived and a man’s brain is very different to ours. The sex of the brain is determined at conception by the chromosomes that are present. Dr Marianne J Legato goes even further to say that the man’s brain is bigger than a woman’s, but women have apparently got more grey matter. This means that we are far better with our judgement and decision-making. Therefore size isn’t everything! The male’s bigger brain needs far more effort and energy to function properly.
We can also therefore multitask; after all, we use more areas of our brains when dealing with several tasks at once than men.
Our hormones affect the way we think and behave. And, let’s not forget our parents and our environment. These all have an affect on our make-up. As we get older this impacts on how we deal with any problems and areas of our lives.
For those of you going through a divorce or relationship break up this will have been useful, as you would have retained a lot of minute details that your ex may have missed. This should also give you the confidence moving forward with your life knowing that you are far more capable of progression and self development. Remember bigger is not necessarily better!
As a woman you have far superior sensory equipment that can analyse the information that you receive. You are far more proficient at deciphering verbal, visual and other signals and your intuition is not often wrong. For you it is far easier to lie to a man as he can’t recognise the differences between your verbal and unwritten signals.
Men, on the other hand, would do better to lie over the telephone, in a letter, with the lights off or with a paper bag over their heads.
We women always know when men are lying to us, even over the telephone. We are able to catch them out and they will often say something that just doesn’t add up from previous conversations.
The one thing that women are good at is remembering what has been told to us. Of course we may also have other tricks up our sleeves. Taping most of their conversations can be useful so that you can work out what is going on; after all, there is often a lot at stake. Write down what they say so that you don’t forget snippets of information that may seem trivial at the time but will form part of the bigger picture later on. Don’t disregard anything that is said. Remember the first ten minutes of any conversation are the most important and any rambling on by them is often an indication of lying by trying or attempting to justify a certain course of action. We are vigilant to the point of being on a mission once we know that they are lying to us. With razor sharp antennae these men don’t stand a chance.
Written by Fiona G Laycy
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